We all know at least one. There is at least one person walking this earth, at this very minute that you envy - even if you try not to. You know who this person is. They are the ones that seem to have all of the luck. They are the ones with the fantastic career, the beautiful home, the perfect family, and everything they touch just turns out perfect. These are the people that we love to hate - simply because their lives appear to be so perfect.

Is this kind of envy really healthy? You may think it's just normal - and it is, in terms of being common. But that doesn't mean that it is healthy. It isn't healthy because we are using it as a yard stick for our own success in most cases - comparing ourselves and finding that we don't quite measure up.

That is not healthy. In fact, it's detrimental to your own happiness, success, and fulfillment as a human being. Unfortunately, in most cases, these aren't people that we can ignore, or people that we can move out of our lives - so their success - the success that we measure our own success or lack thereof by - is constantly in our faces.

Because this is happening - even subconsciously - it contributes to our failure, instead of urging us to try harder to be successful. It almost creates an 'I give up' attitude, because you don't believe you will ever measure up to this envied persons success.

So, what can you do to change it and stop envying this person? Well, you could just decide not to envy that person anymore and to take a look at how wonderful your own life is - but that is much easier said than done. Instead, you need to create new habits. You need to learn to see your own successes in a different way, and you need to learn how to achieve the things that you want out of life.

Of course, this also means that you may have to determine if the things that this envied person has are the things that you actually want, and if not, determine exactly what it is that you do want. It's a matter of reinventing yourself - completely - in an effort to obtain what you want in life. When you have what you truly desire in life, you won't envy any other person. It isn't possible to envy someone else when you are immersed in total happiness and achievement of your own.