Maybe you've already paid attention, that there is not direct connection between planning the future of relationships and its progress in fact.

But still a lot of people feel necessity to definite if it's temporary relates or for a life time.

Why do people like to definite and to make decisions to far future?

Because of the fear!

We are afraid of changing, of movement. We think that this is the way we can protect ourselves, to stay static.

It's difficult to go out of our regular space of acting because of psychology fixation.

But this is not our real nature. This is not the nature of life and the universe. They are dynamic. Everything changes all the time. We either. Every new second is not like previous, we become different. We grow, develop. Also our partners.

We don't know what will happen in five minutes. How can we know who will we be in some years? What will we want? What will be good for us?

There are two types of planning:

1-The problematic one:
When we plan something, and then feel that we have to implement it, no matter what. And if the circumstances changes and the plan isn't relevant anymore, we feel losers, because we haven't done what was planed.

2) The healthy planning:
We can plan our next steps, choose the direction, draw the way in our imagination according to what we feel and know at this moment. It allows us to progress and develop much more quickly and effective.

But..! Every single moment during the way, we should be very sensitive and attentive to what is going on inside and around us.

And if we feel that this is the time to change the direction, simply change it. There is no reason to feel loser, to look at it like at failure, to judge and criticize ourselves. No reason to be sorry.

Just the opposite, behaving this way we are really synchronized with our nature, which is dynamic.

There is one additional thing we should remember:

To keep the relationship during all the life is not a goal.
It can be result but never a goal.
The goal is the way.
The relationship should serve us and not the opposite.