Being in a Foster home must be hard on children I would imagine. I am sure they all would like to be a part of a family. I am sure it is hardest on the holidays. It is very important these children find good, secure, loving homes. I have a 10 month old son, and a very wonderful family. I have some tips on certain things to make sure of before you decide to adopt.

TLC (tender, love and care) is very important. Love is the best thing you could ever give someone, and most things fall under love, but we will get detailed. Make sure you will always be cool, calm, and collected. Be patient and understanding. I am not saying be a pushover. There just shouldn't be any yelling or violence around a child. It scars children. And it may not be easy to see at first, but you will see how it affects them sooner or later. Help them understand they can be comfortable around you, and that they can always come to you with anything. Scaring a child will only push them away.

Make sure you are financially stable as well, live in a nice neighborhood, (one with good schools), and try to be married. I don't care what any one's opinion is. It was meant to be to have a mother figure and a father figure. It will balance the child out, and raised more confident. I understand things happen sometimes, but if you can control it, then control it.

If there is another child in the household, do your best to make sure everyone feels equal and loved. Try to help them understand that you are a family now. It does not matter if you do not have the same blood. You have taken it upon yourself to have this child as your own. Help them feel the love they were meant to feel. Take parenting classes, even if you don't think you need them. Take them! They will help. I know I am a wonderful mother, but if the chance came up I would take the class. You can never know too much. Also, take classes on CPR. God forbid, but it could save your child's life one day.

I suggest a big welcoming when you bring your new child home. Have his or her room all ready and set up nice and clean. Have his favorite food ready with a welcome home cake, etc. All of these things will truly have an impact on this lucky child's life. This is just my opinion, but when has unconditional love ever gone wrong? These sites also may help..

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